What is dialectics?
Specific to mental & emotional health, dialectics is the process of examining opposing ideas to learn a deeper understanding of truth. It emphasizes the interconnectedness of polarities, and the importance of integrating the opposing viewpoints.
Why is this interconnectedness important?
Understanding the interconnectedness of opposing thoughts helps the individual to recognize that two opposing truths can coexist simultaneously.
How is it used in a counseling and/or coaching session?
Dialectics encourages self-discovery by encouraging individuals to explore different viewpoints which can lead to deeper understanding of one’s beliefs and of oneself. In the counseling/coaching setting, an individual will examine contradictions and find ways to reconcile the contradictions within ideas or concepts.
How is this beneficial?
It helps the individual foster a more nuanced understanding of their experiences and emotions, assisting in a gentler/kinder approach to self-exploration. Through this approach, an individual may learn to let go of negative belief systems/thoughts and gravitate towards self-growth & self-love.
Below are several examples of dialectic statements that may help and individual to integrate opposing truths:
| I need to improve myself | & | I still love and accept myself |
| This is hard and I am struggling | & | I am going to try again |
| This is not my fault, it is unfair | & | This is my life, and I will take accountability |
| They are angry/disappointed at me | & | I am lovable and loved by others |
| I care about my family and friends | & | I am allowed to prioritize myself |
| I am strong and capable | & | I am vulnerable and I need help |
| I do not like you or agree with you | & | I will treat you with respect |
| I had a traumatic childhood | & | I can still live a good life |
| I am trying my best | & | I need to do better |
| I miss you | & | I need my space |
| I did not cause all of my problems | & | I am responsible for solving them |
| I am struggling | & | I am still going to try |
| I care about my family and friends | & | I am allowed to prioritize myself |
| They are angry with me | & | They still love me |
| I am doing enough | & | I can set new goals |
| I accept things as they are | & | I will make changes |